My bundle of joy
and many lessons for youngsters and the married alike- Mrs. Akogwu
“Mrs.
Evelyn Akogwu is one woman whose marital story will certainly thrill your mind.
Married for 10 years, she remained without a child until God blessed her with a
beautiful daughter. And five years later, another reward for her patience and
certainly that of her husband in God was rewarded, not just with one other
child but with an additional four children (Quadruplet)! Yes, her story is one
which many, including Eve’s blog would like to share for your delight. Happy
reading!”
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| The quadruplet: Ifeanyi Chukwu, Chukwubuike, Chinaecherem and Chukwuagozigom. |
WHAT’S YOUR VIEW ABOUT
COURTSHIP?
“I do
not believe in courtship, because I know that in my own human reasoning I may
make mistakes. I believe that once you entrust it into hand of our Lord Jesus
Christ and mother Mary; then everything else will naturally fall into place”.
Haven
been married for 19 years, she talks about her relationship, with her husband
and the bond they share, after several years.
“The
first time I had a conversation with my husband; my very first discussion with
him revealed something interesting to me about his person .He is an Engineer,
but he introduced himself as Mr. Akogwu Daniel”.
“He was
so humble when we met, and soon I discovered that he also had the fear of God.
I started developing likeness for him because of the above qualities”.
“We got
married within a span of two months when I was still a student at UNN”.
“It also happened that he was in the same
dormitory with my elder brother and they
served at the same orientation camp, so when he discovered that I was related
to my brother, he said even if my character deviated up to about 20 percent
from that of my brother; it will still be okay for him”.
“When we
had our first challenge after our marriage, I discovered that I was truly
married to my husband”.
“We had
a few things in common; like I had the habit of going for morning masses and he
does too. I also found out that he is
very open, which I found similar to my own habit, because I had the same
attitude of airing my mind in any event
rather than grudging at any situation
arising between me and any one”.
THE
YEARS OF SEARCHING FOR A CHILD
“I found
out soon after our white wedding that; contrary to my belief that once you meet
a man; the next thing would be pregnancy is always true”.
“Months
ran into years after I had been married and I was still without a child. I
started avoiding friends after six months because by then my pregnancy suppose
to be pronounced”
“This
lingered for so long, that whenever we travelled to the village, elderly
concerned relations tell him, ‘we love your wife, but we need a child’. The
situation was so complicated that in my culture, and certainly that of my
husband; a man could marry a woman in the city, and then when he gets to the
village, he will marry another one and keep her there in the village. So he
received various advices that he should do such a thing, so that he would have
children from the other woman. But my husband is a God fearing man, truly a
gift from God, he stood his ground, that he would not do anything that did not
tally with the word of God”.
“He is
my husband, by the virtue of many things I came to learn about him, after our
marriage. I am sure that is part of what made the problem surmountable”.
“You
will not believe that for the 10 years I was childless, till God smiled down on
me with the fruit of the womb and I became pregnant, all this while my husband
stood by me. A great friend indeed!”
“ANOTHER
FIVE YEARS OF HOPEFUL SEARCH”
“After
that first child of mine Mary Akogwu, I started hoping for another child and
two years later I took in but lost the baby because of chloroquin injection.
this was another period of temptation for me. But with God, we kept praying and
hoping. Then all in one time as if the miracle I had waited all these while had
suddenly become so aware of its lateness, I became pregnant again. This time,
the fortune of God did not only shine down on me! It poured down like showers
of blessings. I gave birth five years after I had my first child, and not just
to one baby! No; the lord blessed me with a beautiful set of quadruplet; all at
once! They were two boys and girls; Ifeanyi Chukwu, Chukwubuike, Chinaecherem
and Chukwuagozigom. My joy and that of
my husband knew no bounds”.
“I have
not stopped thanking God for the blessing of having those children. And
suddenly my many years of pain, became samples of testimonies for many people
in trying times, at their matrimonial homes”.
‘She
adds therefore that the problems in marriage can only be surmounted if people especially
girls are patient enough to marry their own partners”.
“Don’t
ever think that by doing anything in your own power you can win over a man,
like by being extra nice or all those things that women sometimes do. That only
explains that you are placing your trust in a man, and woe unto him that places
his trust in men”.
I
believe that every woman is carrying the rib of a man, and that man will never
find rest until he finds the woman of his rib.
‘I
believe in it, and I can tell you that it works for all those who believe in
it. When you let God know that you are indeed helpless, because you cannot help
yourself in marriage, God helps”.
“Marriage
is divine , as a woman you should hold yourself in high esteem and let the man
come begging. There is no need to be afraid, because you know the God in whom
you are trusting will always be on your side”.
‘The
modern theory of same sex, and its spread, was also another topic, discussed by
Mrs Akagwu”.
‘I am
not surprised, because we live in a time, when people prefer chasing shadows”.
“The
world has learnt to abuse the right to freedom. Those who practice or believe
in the philosophy of same sex should ask themselves of what they actually want?
I draw my reference from the Bible; ‘when God made man he saw that it was not
good for him to be alone, so he created a woman’. Why did he not create another
man, instead?”
“The act
of same sex marriages should be regarded as madness and not just modernization”.
“BUT HOW
SHOULD COUPLES SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN MARRIAGE?
If there
is love, both parties will always think of how to help and keep each other happy.
The man will understand that you are working to help him and the woman too will
show great understanding to her husband. A good man knows that his wife’s work
is only a source of help to him.
In
situation where a woman is making more money than her husband, she should not
forget that she is still the woman, she will be more humble. The Bible said
that the more you are blessed the humbler you will become
It is
her duty to cook and clean up the house and whenever the man is doing it,
appreciate him. Not that when he does something today and does not do same
tomorrow, you will start grumbling. Rather help yourself with proper plan on
how to do only what your strength can carry. Don’t go an extra mile in engaging
yourself with the house duties beyond your effort
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